Shanti Joy Gold, a former corporate leader turned entrepreneur and coach who supports LGBTQ+ and other underrepresented professionals, joins Kim Allchurch Flick to discuss how stories reconnect people.
Shanti describes hiding her relationship at work for a decade, later coming out in workplace conversations and on LinkedIn, and how allies’ responses sparked her podcast, Stories We Haven’t Shared, creating a forum for under-discussed experiences.
They discuss the ongoing, complex nature of “coming out,” the “radar” marginalized people use to assess safety, and how challenges can become superpowers. Shanti highlights podcast episodes on disability (Ruth Blatt), a Holocaust survivor (Tibor Spitz), and her father’s Vietnam experience, and emphasizes presence over rumination.
She shares her website, monthly “Saboteur No More” gatherings, and a surfing metaphor for mental fitness; they also discuss music, including the Indigo Girls.
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Time Stamps
00:00 Welcome and Introductions
01:04 Shanti Journey and Coming Out
04:51 Why Stories Matter for Allies
07:11 Outsider Experience and Superpowers
10:24 Walls Saboteurs and Joy
11:38 Showing Up in Community
13:21 Hope Through Human Connection
15:19 Podcast Highlights and Powerful Guests
21:33 Being Present and Finding Peace
24:16 How to Connect and Saboteur No More
26:31 Coaching Mental Fitness Surfboard
31:10 Final Questions Music and Farewell
Kim Allchurch Flick: Hello everyone. This is Kim Allchurch Flick with the Mighty Measure Podcast, and I am delighted to be here today with Shanti Joy Gold, who has journeyed from corporate America to entrepreneurship, and now coaches fellow lgbtq plus professionals to thrive in their careers. She’s the host of the stories. We haven’t shared podcasts.
And is a lover of things Outdoors is a campfire guitar drummer, a photographer, and enjoys the little piece of heaven she and her wife have built by the Lake. Shante is passionate about reconnecting people to their inner brilliance and getting under the BS to remember all of the cool things we have in common as humans.
Today we’re gonna talk about the power of stories.
Shanti Joy Gold: Yeah.
Kim Allchurch Flick: Shanti, welcome.
Shanti Joy Gold: Thank you. Thanks so much for having me here.
Kim Allchurch Flick: I love your podcast. Thank you. I do agree with you that stories reconnect us and sometimes we don’t feel we have time or space to share, but it can be so magical when we do.
Shanti Joy Gold: Yes.
Kim Allchurch Flick: So what has been your journey and inspirations to this point?
Shanti Joy Gold: Wow. I’ll come at it. Through the lens of the podcast, which is I worked in corporate for about 30 years. I spent the first 10 years of that actively hiding my relationship with my now wife at work. We were working at the same organization, not as peers, and it’s just simply didn’t feel safe to do anything else.
So that was one phase and then. When I went to my next job, I said, all right, I’m done. I’m gonna get this out there, so to speak. And had these two sit people down, coming out moments at work, which were pretty interesting. Funny in retrospect. At the time, a little painful not in a bad way that it was well received, but very clunky on my part.
Had those experiences, which was the beginning of me starting to align more corporately in, in my career and have people understand my full story. And then it was only a few years ago, which was about 20 years down the road that I. Did this larger LinkedIn coming out. I pivoted my career from sales leadership roles and joyfully started professional coaching and took me a while to see what was right in front of me.
I kind of said I started here and went all the way around to understand that I was really called to and excited to support lgbtq plus and underrepresented people in thriving in their careers. And when I made that decision I was excited to talk about it on LinkedIn and realized that I had never even discussed the fact that I’m gay on LinkedIn.
So all of a sudden I had that realization, which was, wow. As far as I’ve come, I really haven’t had this conversation yet. I haven’t. Told this story in this way to this larger group of people. So I shared I shared about my, my new coaching and who I was gonna be focused on working with. And I told these two Coming outta work stories as a part of it.
And there were two people who knew me very well, who are very open-minded, curious, wonderful humans. That said, I had absolutely no idea you went through that. Nor did it ever even cross my awareness that anyone might have to have conversations like that coming out, conversations at work. And I, how would I know because I’m a straight, white person and it just wasn’t in, in my field division.
So thank you so much for sharing that. I feel like, it’s very important to know these stories and keep ’em coming and. I wasn’t expecting that wasn’t on my Bingo card of, responses I was necessarily gonna get to the LinkedIn post, but it really sat with me. And it ultimately became the kernel.
And the spark for stories we haven’t shared. I started thinking deeply about why hadn’t I shared those stories, and what’s the opportunity if, first of all, if I haven’t shared my story, then what other stories are out there that other people haven’t shared? And why aren’t we sharing ’em?
What’s my piece in that? What are some of the other nuances and factors at play? And so the idea of creating a container or a forum for people to have these conversations, share these stories. So that we can learn more about each other again, reconnect at a more human level, feel less alone, get inspired all of the things that was really the impetus for the, the podcast, and it’s been really one of my favorite things I’ve done in my entire life.
Kim Allchurch Flick: I’m so touched by that, and as you were speaking, I was also thinking in my world, in my later adult life now. Our neighbors, family members, so many people are gay and
Shanti Joy Gold: yeah.
Kim Allchurch Flick: How I love them and it’s open. But dialing back to when I was really young and one of my best friends from fourth grade was in Manhattan.
We were in Manhattan together. First time there for me and someone was on a street corner saying, will you sign in support of, I think it was gay rights. And I said no.
Only because they wanted my address.
Shanti Joy Gold: Okay.
Kim Allchurch Flick: And later my friend, we were back in her dorm room and she came out to me and she said, why didn’t you sign that?
I said, oh, I’m totally in support of it. I just, I’m in Manhattan and talking to a stranger on the street corner and I didn’t want to give him my address. That was the only thing. Sure. It was a privacy thing and it really opened up a conversation that lasted well into the night.
And. But also thinking about how many people like your colleagues are have.
In my world, it’s like over 50% of my close people are same-sex marriage or a variety of things, and it’s delightful. But if I didn’t know that, what would the assumption be? Yeah, and I think a lot of people do have more people in their life than they realize and they don’t know. So you bring up something super important.
Shanti Joy Gold: Yeah. And that’s why it’s equally a space for allies because when I was creating the podcast, in addition to wanting to highlight the stories of underrepresented people it wanted to create a space for people like my friends who had responded to LinkedIn posts and said I wish I could be a part of more of these conversations.
I wish I could know more of these stories. And I just had a former boss. Who reached out and said, I’ve been looking at your content and I have a sister who’s gay, and I know you and I love my sister, I love you. And I realize how much I still don’t know how much of the story is still not being discussed and, so thank you for bringing that to my awareness.
Yeah.
Kim Allchurch Flick: And that’s why stories are so important. Yeah. And I like adding to it with this one. So what do you see in your community? Is there anything more that you see in the community view of the people you serve about these topics and the stories?
Shanti Joy Gold: Yeah and again, I wanna broaden it beyond just LGBTQ plus to really all underrepresented groups because you know what we would traditionally call minorities?
I think there’s a shared experience there, right? It’s this experience of being an outsider, navigating from the margins and maybe one person’s. Spec the specifics of their story might be different, but that underlying shared experience of being on the outside and having to question, am I gonna be judged?
Will I belong, will I be accepted? All of those things. There’s a, I think that’s a, a common, common thread and, the, there’s this extra weight and extra layers to navigate when you are, wrestling with those questions, and I’ve come to describe it as we have this shared kinda radar that’s constantly scanning the room to really assess safety, to assess, is there anything I need to be thinking about and anticipating that might come up where I might feel vulnerable or exposed?
Coming out, I think we think, and it could be coming out about anything, it could be coming out about disability. It could be coming out about financial insecurity. It could be, coming out in the traditional sense, but it’s not a single moment in time. Typically, it’s an unfolding.
And I think we all share this awareness of there’s no right way to do it and. You have to follow your intuition about who, who am I ready to share with in a, a given moment, and who am I not ready to share with? And so there’s the navigating of that and the understanding that it is going to continue to happen.
Every day I have a conversation, I came on here and I said, my, my now wife, right? It’s another revealing, it’s another. So there’s just a lot of complexity there. What it tends to do is. It, we all as humans build some defense w defensive walls. It’s part of our the way our brains are wired, right?
Our survival brain versus our Thrive brain and. There’s certain ways that we start to build some defenses over time that go way back to childhood and and survival and the layers are just deeper here. And so it’s hearing those stories and the ways that that’s impacted people in their lives. The challenges.
And then, if you go back to the podcast for a minute, and I’ve not scripted it this way, but the challenges typically get to some moment where it’s like, something’s gotta give, right? This is not, this isn’t working. And that takes a variety of forms and then overcoming that and then the very thing that was presenting the challenge really becomes people’s superpowers in many way, in many ways.
Kim Allchurch Flick: Wow. The thing becomes the superpower. That’s a lovely thing to think about, but it, because it also creates optimism. And in, in your work, helping people and doing the podcast, what are some obstacles and challenges?
Shanti Joy Gold: I think it is. These walls that we build unconsciously a lot of the time. Sure, some of them may be conscious, but these walls that we build in, in, in of self-protection, again, is a human thing.
And. Until we have awareness of the fact that we’ve done it. I think that’s step one is, okay, wow. I didn’t even realize that I had that wall up. And those walls can be internal walls where you start to separate, okay, from my, what’s my real purpose? What lights me up, what brings me joy? And obviously also create separation from other people and gets in the way of connection.
So first seeing that. That those walls exist, and then being open to investigating that learning tools to start to dismantle the walls and pivot toward the good stuff, right? Joy, flow, creativity, happiness. Th those are, that’s really central to both the conversations I’m having on the podcast as well as the work I’m doing in coaching.
Kim Allchurch Flick: That makes so much sense. It also makes me think as you’re talking about the differences in locations and how they’re, there are different things, and where I live, I’m close to a very like open, pretty liberal city.
Shanti Joy Gold: Yeah.
Kim Allchurch Flick: Yet live in a rural town that is becoming increasingly. Interestingly conservative and there was a newer city council that’s in place that actually wanted to, they didn’t create a new law about it, but they didn’t want to have pride in the town.
You mentioned this. Yeah. So the, the people with pride put together a, a business hall in a com, in a community center. My neighbor said, you go with us to that. And I was happy to. And there was security there.
And it was full. And it was so delightful to be in there. And it was just pure joy.
But yet knowing that a couple of businesses down, or driving by the city hall, there’s been kind of this takeover of really hyper religious conservatism that wants to. Shut those types of things down.
Shanti Joy Gold: Yeah.
Kim Allchurch Flick: So very, very interesting to be in a space like that and observing this dichotomy and yet the people that were there supporting these businesses and each other, it was literally just pure joy.
That’s
Shanti Joy Gold: awesome.
Kim Allchurch Flick: So that’s why showing up I, I think is a big part of it too. And, but it takes increasing bravery sometimes to show up in communities where there the pushback might even require security. So I thought that was really interesting. That’s,
Shanti Joy Gold: yeah, that’s also beautiful example of pure, lovely allyship too.
Kim Allchurch Flick: Yeah, indeed. Yeah. What makes you optimistic?
Shanti Joy Gold: What makes me optimistic is as I’m sharing these stories and getting to just the people behind, in a world where it’s very polarized, obviously understatement. And it’s easy to use your computer and hide behind your computer and, not really get into rooms with people, whether they’re real rooms or virtual rooms.
And then once you do I feel like so much of that separation just melts away and. When it does, and we can just say, wow, here’s a human being that went through or is going through this particular event. And then, and having the opportunity to showcase that and then hearing back from people who listen that say like I’ve never had an opportunity to hear about it.
Think about it, experience it in that way, and. I’m not having political conversations with these people. I’m not having, just charged conversations. We’re just people talking about people and it just, it in, and it’s just so beautiful. And I feel like as we continue, when I have those moments, I’m like, well, this is what it’s all about, is just.
Reconnecting with the fact that at the core we’re all the same. And I see it happen in my podcast and then I see in my coaching business, people reconnect with their, I call it their inner brilliance, right? Like this reconnecting to self, this reconnecting to others. It’s what I, it’s what I do. I immerse in every day.
Being a witness to it is inspiring and also gives me a tremendous amount of hope.
Kim Allchurch Flick: And what are your, I know every podcast is like a child, they’re very special. But what are some of your highlights that you’d like to share of the podcast you’ve done so far?
Shanti Joy Gold: It’s so tough. It’s so tough. They’re, I always say they’re all like my, my little children.
I think I did. Two podcasts about physical disability. I’ll choose one just to make it a little more streamlined to have the discussion in this case. Her name is Ruth Blatt. She was born without one fully formed hand. And it was just so interesting to learn that she hid this physical disability for 25 years, which.
Seems impossible. But she did. And to think about that in terms of what was her lived experience like and what were the, what was the fear and the shame and everything that would lead someone to take those actions and then to spend so much time and energy every day actually hiding a very otherwise visible disability was really just.
Mind altering for me. And it’s a lovely episode. She thinks and talks about UNH because her own journey was a 25 year journey of finally being ready to unhide and then speaking about the many ways that we all hide, right? It so many of us. Hide in, there’s the traditionally marginalized communities and what you would think about the people that hide.
And then there are people who hide other things. And I alluded to it earlier, financial issues, health issues things that you might not be able to see, like obviously neurodiversity family situations. Just all, I just interviewed someone for the podcast who’s struggled with weight their entire life and what she’s had to navigate and the ways that she went out of her way to kinda hide in plain sight in certain ways as well.
So that was a very interesting one. Tibor, Spitz. I know he’s a, so yeah, he’s a Holocaust survivor. As I’ve continued with the podcast, I did start with. Speaking to historically marginalized communities and then to the point I was just making realized that there are so many ways that we can all that, that the definition of being an outsider can be much wider than that.
And so I had the opportunity to think about the Holocaust and. He’s a family friend and had the opportunity to connect with him and speak with him about that experience. He hid for the better part of a year in a literal hole underground with his family, including during wintertime months to escape deportation to Auschwitz, and just to hear his story and how he got through.
Those moments and how it impacted him and empowered him and completely changed his worldview in beautiful ways was one of the more inspiring ones. And if you don’t stop me, I’ll keep going ’cause there are so many.
Kim Allchurch Flick: I don’t wanna stop you, but I, I, that was the first one of your podcasts I heard. And it rocked my world.
His voice was so calm and yet so open and descriptive. And to think about that and to think what does it take to be a survivor? What does it take for loss? What does it take for moving forward? And to do so with so much grace?
Shanti Joy Gold: Yeah,
Kim Allchurch Flick: I was, I’m really moved and that one really stuck with me quite a bit.
Shanti Joy Gold: Yeah.
Kim Allchurch Flick: And I’ve never personally known a Holocaust survivor. I’ve met a few, but I do know Cambodia and Khmer Rou survivors and. I’ve talked with them a lot. Very similar, different country, different types of torches, different types of things, and yet similar Yeah. That lives being taken away, families being taken away.
Overpowering all of these things and the people that come through it and create something like a nonprofit to help the children in Cambodia.
Shanti Joy Gold: Exactly, exactly. Yeah. Tibor reminds me of my dad, which brings me to just one other of my favorite episodes I’ve done. It was two or three episodes with my dad, but the first one was about his experience in Vietnam and similar to Tibor, very different circumstances, but as opposed to what?
You one might expect being in Vietnam, having a vast number of near death experiences completely changed my dad’s worldview. He became a, a fatalist, which allowed him a lot of freedom to be just optimistic in many ways, and take the pressure off, and it’s just this beautiful journey that he took.
From Vietnam, it completely transformed who he is as a, a human and gave me the opportunity to meet the dad that I know and love. So that’s another favorite of mine,
Kim Allchurch Flick: and everybody has their own reaction and that’s a beautiful turnabout. ’cause I never thought of the word fatalist in that way as being
Shanti Joy Gold: Yeah.
Kim Allchurch Flick: Optimism and positivity.
Shanti Joy Gold: For him if things in life are. For him, because he had so many near death experiences, he came to think clearly I’m not in control of this, right? There’s something bigger going on than me. So if I am not the one in control, then it takes the pressure off and I can just show up and trust the process and be present and enjoy the moments.
And there were some there were some adjusting he had to do along the way because you can get to a point where you’re just so optimistic and can almost get to a passive place where he learned that. It’s important to still show up very actively in your life and to still be in a place where you are engaging fully and just being the best that you can be in every moment.
So there’s been a journey within the journey for him, but that’s the gist.
Kim Allchurch Flick: The journey within the journey. That’s a really good quote. Yeah. What else would you like to add and share with people about your life or the podcast or your viewpoints?
Shanti Joy Gold: I think that. Just what I was talking about with my dad a minute ago, and it’s something I continue to have to work on even for myself, but really being present. I spent so much of my life. I was in corporate America. I was blessed that a wonderful career and I realized also that I was constantly.
On the move. So it was, from one thing to the next thing to the next thing. Being in sales specifically in my case was always, the next benchmark, the next goal one-upping. So it was just endless. Now that doesn’t mean I didn’t have moments. I had plenty of moments that I enjoyed and and, but I would say on the balance, I was either thinking backwards about, okay.
How could I potentially have handled a situation differently? The coulda would’ve should have stuff or thinking ahead because again, sales and business and strategy, because I got to a leadership position like all of the what ifs, right? So thinking ahead to the what ifs. And really if you step back and think about it, that’s where anxiety lives in the looking at the past and ruminating about how things might have gone differently and what role you might have played in that.
And then thinking ahead to all of the different what if possible scenarios of which, by the way, probably 80, 90% of them never happen. The opportunity to just be fully present in a moment is. An invitation to just be peaceful and. Joyful. Because in the present moment it’s just you and me right now, there’s nothing to worry about.
We’re having this conversation. It’s lovely. And so being in that pocket is such a beautiful place. And again I’m human and I’ve got I call ’em in the work I do my saboteurs, and they’re pretty strong and they’re gonna pull you out of the pocket whenever they can, but just.
Coming back into that space. And in, in doing the interviews for the podcast, in the moments that I have with my clients, for me that’s fully about being in the pocket. It’s part of what I love. And then just making sure I’m doing that in my life as well with the people and the things that I care about.
Kim Allchurch Flick: I fully appreciate that and I, as I am here interviewing you for a podcast and filming the same, it’s so delightful to be focused.
Shanti Joy Gold: Yeah.
Kim Allchurch Flick: And to listen. What can, how can people reach you? How can we help you?
Shanti Joy Gold: So I really can be found primarily on my website, shanti joy gold.com, which I’m sure you’ll put in the show notes.
It’s S-H-A-N-T-I-J-O-Y-G-O-L d.com. Is more about the coaching work that I do. More about the podcast. I am hosting monthly work workshops, but I really just, their gatherings, they’re, I like to have the same kind of campfire style vibe as I do. When I’m speaking with podcast guests and it’s called Saboteur No More, it’s, this isn’t really for me although it is, because when there’s a lot of energy in the room, it really drives these conversations.
But on the third Wednesday of every month at 6:00 PM Eastern, I’m hosting these gatherings called Saboteur No More. And it’s really to get people together to share more of our stories to look at its mental fitness work. And to get a better understanding of the origins of our saboteurs, how to recognize them, what purpose do they serve in our lives.
And then once we can see them, how do we start to say, okay you can, shoo, you can go now. I appreciate what you’re trying to do, but you’re getting in the way here. So they’ve been really wonderful gatherings and showing up for those. If you feel aligned, it would be very welcome all around.
Kim Allchurch Flick: That sounds lovely. I love that title Saboteur no more.
Shanti Joy Gold: Yeah, thanks.
Kim Allchurch Flick: We are, some of us are more than others into self-sabotage and don’t even know it.
Shanti Joy Gold: Yeah. Yeah. That’s one distinction I make. It’s interesting ’cause that is what I’ve named. I’m just, it’s catchy and it’s close enough. But the reality is that, our saboteurs, we never.
It’s not a cure and they, you don’t ultimately get rid of ’em. I think in some, in many cases, you can skip that whole saboteur thing and just go into a more, positive, peaceful flow state. But life life’s, and the reality is that those guys are gonna show up at points and then it’s really having the tools and the muscle.
To pivot out of that much more quickly than you might have previously. So it’s cool
stuff.
Kim Allchurch Flick: Oh, I love that. So you also have your coaching and the podcast, and what does the coaching mean to you and how does that show up? With the saboteur no more and beyond.
Shanti Joy Gold: Yeah, the Saboteur No more is really a direct a direct piece of my coaching work.
It, as I mentioned before, it is mental fitness and the initial work that I do with with my coaching clients. Is building three core mental muscles, the same way you would build, go to the gym and physical fitness and build certain core muscles like your abs, et cetera. There are three core mental muscles that we can build to help us be able to remain calm and clearheaded.
In all cases, including when the stuff, so to speak, is going down. And so it’s has to do with practice, just like going to a gym, doing reps repetition and building this foundation to really support us and a allow us to make choices that are. More positive. I use the analogy with surfing, right?
You can go out, I’m gonna say the Jersey Shore ’cause I’m a Jersey girl. You go out to the Jersey Shore, it’s one of those days that there’s these enormous waves and one of the choices that you can make is to go. Walk into the water and stand in front of the waves and, brace yourself and, grin and grit and bear it.
And the wave comes and you get knocked around and you’re like, I can do this. And you stand back up and you take another wave and you take another wave and you take another wave. And one can make that choice. And that’s something that, we can do for a period of time. But it’s.
Exhausting and truly not sustainable. At some point you’re just gonna take one and be like, I’m done. I’m out. And then the alternative is to go back to the shore. Catch your breath, grab a surfboard, and now it’s the exact same wave, exact same wave, but now you’ve got the surfboard and you’re up on top of the wave and where before there was water in your eyes and you were getting beaten up.
Now you literally, the definition of flow, right? You’re shifting creatively as the wave is shifting. You are up above everything you can see clearly. You’re having fun. You had this attitude like, all right, wave what you got. Let’s do this thing. And it’s a, the completely different experience, same wave.
So in life, the waves are gonna come. We don’t control the waves, but we can choose how we respond to them. And in the coaching work I do with mental fitness being phase one of how I work with clients, it’s giving people the foundation to. Recognize that there are two choices, and then to be able to say, okay, I want to do the surfboard one.
Do I have what I need to do that? And to make sure that they do.
Kim Allchurch Flick: I always love a good metaphor and Me too. That makes a lot of sense. Yeah. Being beaten up by something and withstanding it for a while is one thing, but writing the writing on top of it and coasting with it.
Shanti Joy Gold: It
Kim Allchurch Flick: feels so much better.
Shanti Joy Gold: Yeah. And when you’re
Kim Allchurch Flick: in that, what a great metaphor.
Shanti Joy Gold: Thank you. When you’re in that first scenario, when you’re taking the waves head on, literally all you can do is just you’re in, a defensive position. All you can do is just survive the wave. Embrace for the next one. You don’t have any capacity for. For the good things because you’re just bracing yourself for what’s coming next.
Getting people out of that, helping people see that and get outta that cycle is a lot is very rewarding.
Kim Allchurch Flick: Everyone everything will be in the show notes and these takeaways to me are meaning so much. Is there anything else you’d like to add before we go to the final question?
Shanti Joy Gold: No, I just really appreciate the opportunity to be here talking to you as always.
And
Kim Allchurch Flick: yeah,
Shanti Joy Gold: Thank you for inviting me.
Kim Allchurch Flick: Yeah, this has been such a joy. And it’s also a joy that we live on opposite coasts. We have not yet met in person. We’ve built, I think, a, a wonderful conversation, relationship. In virtually, but in Agreed. Yeah. In real time. Yeah. And I love those possibilities. And sometime during travel, one of us will be in the same place at the same time and let the other know.
And I think people around are learning to do that as part of community. Yeah. So many levers, layers to what is community and we can learn from each other.
Shanti Joy Gold: Definitely. It’s been a pleasure.
Kim Allchurch Flick: It is. So the last question is, if you could have dinner with. Up to three additional people living or deceased, who would they be and why?
Shanti Joy Gold: I’m just gonna stick with the most obvious, which is the Indigo Girls. I’m a huge music fan and it’s actually a part of my podcast. I have a segment on my podcast that is it’s my podcast, so there will be music, and I ask the same question. What’s, if there was one, one song you could put in a time capsule and preserve it all across for future generations, what would it be and why?
So similar to this, and. Just to say that music is really important to me because I love it and because I do think it gets that underlying core DNA that we all share. So the Indigo Girls, I mean from a musical standpoint, I have a pretty wide breadth of music that I enjoy, and so there’s like all of it.
And then there’s the Indigo Girls like way like, a couple stories above that. And so it’s Emily Sails and Amy Ray and. Their music just is such a big part of me. Their lyrics are next level, their harmonies, the way they interplay off of each other and create, the whole, that phrase, the whole is greater than the sum of its parts.
What they produce musically is is that for me and. They’re gay and that’s just icing on the cake. But you know that as a part of me growing up and looking for visibility and representation, as, as I started to understand that they were gay too, that became an important part of my journey to be able to see them and the world and what they were doing.
But the music, it just is so. Beautiful next level. And if I could spend some time nerding out with them about specific songs and specific inspirations and how they I know in reading about them, how they work together, but just to get into all of that in a room with the two of them would be amazing.
Kim Allchurch Flick: My husband loves the Indigo Girls, and he introduced them to me, and I think they had a song in the movie Philadelphia.
Shanti Joy Gold: Yeah.
Kim Allchurch Flick: And Beyond, but there are,
I think it was that one, but
Shanti Joy Gold: I think that was, I don’t want to talk about it potentially in that movie, but Yeah. Yeah.
Kim Allchurch Flick: And beautiful voices.
Shanti Joy Gold: Beautiful voices
Kim Allchurch Flick: Velvety clear lyrics that are meaningful.
Shanti Joy Gold: Yeah. Emily’s got a higher cleaner voice and Amy’s got the deeper like bold, like big voice and then their songwriting is very different. Emily’s kind of more.
Poetic and lyrical. Amy’s it’s just different and the guitar playing. Emily is like, lead guitar, just virtuoso and Amy does a lot of rhythm and it just, it’s just who they are and the way they come together and they stand for community. They do a tremendous amount in terms of activism and.
So it’s, you start here and you’re like, well, I hope they’re good people too. And then it just gets better from there. So
Kim Allchurch Flick: Indeed. So I’m gonna ask another question. What would be your time capsule song?
Shanti Joy Gold: It would be one of theirs, and if I don’t think too much, there’s a song called Ghost, and I did choose that as one of mine on the podcast.
It’s an Emily song and it’s about a kind of an unrequited love and this telling of that story in a really beautiful, poetic way with a music musically. There’s this build to it. There’s orchestration behind it, and some really interesting chords, not just standard chords. So the kind of, the resonance of the music with the lyrics.
It’s one of the best songs I’ve ever had the pleasure of hearing and I go back to it again and again and it’s good every time
Kim Allchurch Flick: I’m gonna listen to it. I have Spotify, I’m gonna find it. All right. Thank you so much. You didn’t ask, but my, my brain answered the time capsule music questions so immediately.
Shanti Joy Gold: Yes,
Kim Allchurch Flick: and it would be fragile by sting.
Shanti Joy Gold: Oh, I don’t think I know that song. Oh,
Kim Allchurch Flick: well then you have to listen to that. So Fragile by Sting.
Shanti Joy Gold: I can’t wait.
Kim Allchurch Flick: It’s from, it’s at least 20 years on. It’s one of those songs that it could never get old.
Shanti Joy Gold: Oh, wow.
Kim Allchurch Flick: And then he also won, wrote one called Brand New Day, which is just so uplifted.
That one
Shanti Joy Gold: I know.
Kim Allchurch Flick: But Fragile is for the time capsule.
Shanti Joy Gold: Cool.
Kim Allchurch Flick: All
Shanti Joy Gold: right, I’ll check it out.
Kim Allchurch Flick: Well, Shanti Joy Gold. You are a joy.
Shanti Joy Gold: Thank you
Kim Allchurch Flick: and this is gold. So are you sure? Some corny metaphors, but thank you so much everyone. It is a delight to have you listening whenever you choose to do so. This is Kim Allchurch Flick signing off with the Mighty Measure Podcast.
We appreciate you, take care.
This Episode’s Guest: Shanti Joy Gold

Shanti Joy Gold journeyed from corporate America to entrepreneurship and now coaches fellow LGBTQ+ professionals to thrive in their careers.
She’s the host of the Stories We Haven’t Shared® podcast, lover of things outdoors, campfire-guitar strummer, photographer… and enjoys the little piece of heaven she and her wife have built by the lake.
Shanti is passionate about reconnecting people to their inner brilliance and getting under the BS to remember all of the cool things we have in common as humans.

















